Well, it's almost time for the the big game. Holy Week. It's like March Madness for Catholics, the pinnacle of our Church year. Sure, everyday life is going to go on throughout this week, but it's our job as Catholics to take a step back from that, and to recognize that this is one of the cornerstones of our faith. We reenact this each year, which shows that it truly is important.
The only way to truly observe the Holy Triduum is to make yourself a part of it. Feel the emotions...the foreboding and foreshadowing of Holy Thursday, the pain and sadness of Good Friday, the patience and faith of Holy Saturday, and finally the rejoicing of Easter Sunday. Everyone uses those emotions on a daily basis, so why not use them for God. It helps us learn not only more about God, but ourselves as well.
You'll hear the Passion once again on Friday, but it will be from John. One line in Luke's on Palm Sunday stuck out to me though. Right after the crowd of chief priests, rulers, and regular people yell that they want Barabbas released, Luke tells us that Barabbas had been in prison for a rebellion and murder. I think we all know that murder is pretty bad, and wouldn't want a known murderer running around the streets rebelling. Yet, the people would rather have Barabbas on the streets, than Jesus, who has never hurt a fly. He was just changing the world.
Their thinking is just so backwards that it really makes me think, wow these people had no idea what they were talking about. They thought they did, but lost all sense of reality in the rush of actually making a difference with their voices. It's called getting caught in the moment, and not thinking about the consequences of actions. We can be so set on something that we block out any other alternatives, which probably could be better that what we are set on. That tunnel vision can really hurt us. I'm all for tradition and keeping things the same, but there are times when change really is good.
It's kind of what life is about. Whether it's a good thing or a bad thing, you have to embrace those turns in life, because the alternative is having the same thing happen day after day after day. Not very fun is it? Pretty repetitive. Things can change, but God needs to stay constant, that's where our grounding comes from.
Think about this week, although Jesus told them what would happen more than once, the apostles had their world rocked for three straight days. Some of it was good, some of it was terrible. By being scared to go out in public, their face was shaken too. We've all had those whirlwind stretches, where life's turns seem more severe than ever. We need to keep our faith strong in those instances, and think that maybe this change could be for the best down the road, and lead us where God has us meant to go. That's our fate, and our destiny, and we can get emotional about it.
So, in these next few days, feel sad, feel happy, get scared, give yourself to God and the events that save us. Change really is good, but keep God as that constant, traditional force. The Triduum is a pattern that repeats throughout our own lives, and with God as our Rock, our destiny is inevitable.
Monday, March 29, 2010
Monday, March 22, 2010
Who's on First?
With school back in session after a much needed week off, it's time to hit the last stretch of blogs for this spring semester. For anyone with kids, who is currently in school, or teaches in any capacity, these next couple months are often the hardest. Summer vacation is in sight, but you know what, there is work still to be done. It's easy to worry about all that is on the schedule, trust me, my April might be one of my toughest. Football practice at sunrise, documentary filming, paper writing, and even some volunteering fill up those 30 days for me. It's difficult to avoid those thoughts of doubt and exhaustion as I approach those days. I'm sure your schedule is as packed if not worse than my own.
But life is too short to think about doing all of that now. It's impossible, there's no time machine that can get me through it either. So I just have to deal with it, and even try to make something positive out of each activity I do.
Sunrise Football: I love my sleep just as much as you do, so I am not a morning person. Running around at 6 am though, illuminated by a rising ball of fire, will be good for me. It's seizing the day, literally not wasting a moment of sunlight. I'm also making my body better physically in the process. And that feel-good emotion that you get after a solid workout won't hurt either.
Documentary Filming: My topic is up in Syracuse, so time and travel will be involved. But I will be trying to capture the emotions of people and the controversial visuals of the polluted Onondaga Lake. That's good for society as a whole, and will improve my journalistic sense as well.
Paper Writing: Pretty self-explanitory, we probably all know the feeling of sitting down to a 20 or 10 page paper. It's impossible not to learn something in the process though. Whether it is in the research or the actual writing, some nugget of knowledge will be implanted in my head in that process.
Volunteering: I'm working up at the Cayuga Nature Center with people and animals, which is quite the task. I committed to it for a class, but the experience has grown on me, and I think it might even be in my plans for next semester as well. Sure, it takes up a considerable amount of my weekend relax time. But instead of watching a cheetah take down an ostrich on the Discovery Channel, I'll be cleaning the cage of boa constrictor. Kind of puts High Definition to shame doesn't it?
When budgeted correctly, those short 24 hours can be made much longer, and can fit all of those activities in without stress or worry. Looking at their positive side makes it much more attainable.
But wait...
Don't make the mistake I did. Writing this, I didn't know where to put God. Sure, that stuff I talked about is important, but God should always be the priority. In 50 years I might not have to know how to make a documentary or write a paper on the difference of mainstream and alternative media, but I will need to know God. As busy as I'm going to be, regardless of what I have to do, attending church on Sunday in some form, somewhere, at some time, must be a priority.
If I don't make it the top part of my list, and miss a week or two, it will be like that snowball I'm always talking about, and I might lose that cornerstone of my life. Even if I'm in the middle of a paper that is due at midnight on a Sunday, I must go to Mass at Muller at 9, it's that important. That foundation of Sunday mass helps me through the busy times, because I know I can still pray to God at any time, which is where the idea of being positive about those busy days comes in. It's easy to dread a tough day, but by letting God shape those activities, and realize that it's part of his plan, you might get something out of it. Dare I say, it will be refreshing to know that you got so much done in just 24 hours...
Twenty minutes of looking at a reading or glancing at a prayer book in between all that stuff during the week won't hurt either...I'm sure it is more worthwhile than checking Facebook and your email and your Twitter and your cell phone 20 different times in that same time span.
Keep in mind that what you'll need tomorrow is important, but what you'll really need in the long run is a close relationship with God. Everything has its own place, but your faith should always be in first. That will take you down the path of an enriched life.
But life is too short to think about doing all of that now. It's impossible, there's no time machine that can get me through it either. So I just have to deal with it, and even try to make something positive out of each activity I do.
Sunrise Football: I love my sleep just as much as you do, so I am not a morning person. Running around at 6 am though, illuminated by a rising ball of fire, will be good for me. It's seizing the day, literally not wasting a moment of sunlight. I'm also making my body better physically in the process. And that feel-good emotion that you get after a solid workout won't hurt either.
Documentary Filming: My topic is up in Syracuse, so time and travel will be involved. But I will be trying to capture the emotions of people and the controversial visuals of the polluted Onondaga Lake. That's good for society as a whole, and will improve my journalistic sense as well.
Paper Writing: Pretty self-explanitory, we probably all know the feeling of sitting down to a 20 or 10 page paper. It's impossible not to learn something in the process though. Whether it is in the research or the actual writing, some nugget of knowledge will be implanted in my head in that process.
Volunteering: I'm working up at the Cayuga Nature Center with people and animals, which is quite the task. I committed to it for a class, but the experience has grown on me, and I think it might even be in my plans for next semester as well. Sure, it takes up a considerable amount of my weekend relax time. But instead of watching a cheetah take down an ostrich on the Discovery Channel, I'll be cleaning the cage of boa constrictor. Kind of puts High Definition to shame doesn't it?
When budgeted correctly, those short 24 hours can be made much longer, and can fit all of those activities in without stress or worry. Looking at their positive side makes it much more attainable.
But wait...
Don't make the mistake I did. Writing this, I didn't know where to put God. Sure, that stuff I talked about is important, but God should always be the priority. In 50 years I might not have to know how to make a documentary or write a paper on the difference of mainstream and alternative media, but I will need to know God. As busy as I'm going to be, regardless of what I have to do, attending church on Sunday in some form, somewhere, at some time, must be a priority.
If I don't make it the top part of my list, and miss a week or two, it will be like that snowball I'm always talking about, and I might lose that cornerstone of my life. Even if I'm in the middle of a paper that is due at midnight on a Sunday, I must go to Mass at Muller at 9, it's that important. That foundation of Sunday mass helps me through the busy times, because I know I can still pray to God at any time, which is where the idea of being positive about those busy days comes in. It's easy to dread a tough day, but by letting God shape those activities, and realize that it's part of his plan, you might get something out of it. Dare I say, it will be refreshing to know that you got so much done in just 24 hours...
Twenty minutes of looking at a reading or glancing at a prayer book in between all that stuff during the week won't hurt either...I'm sure it is more worthwhile than checking Facebook and your email and your Twitter and your cell phone 20 different times in that same time span.
Keep in mind that what you'll need tomorrow is important, but what you'll really need in the long run is a close relationship with God. Everything has its own place, but your faith should always be in first. That will take you down the path of an enriched life.
Monday, March 8, 2010
From Eating Fish to Making Fruit
Well it's Week 3 of Lent...how's it going? Think on that for a second...Now in the constant effort to not eat meat on Fridays, I've now taste-tested fish at McDonald's, Wendy's and Burger King, which I guess is getting the job done. I prefer Wendy's in case you were wondering or even care. But let's get to what really matters...other than the material things like giving something up, how is your soul doing? Now is not the time to forget Jesus' words on Ash Wednesday.
The Gospel on that day was from Mt 6:1-6, 16-18, and Jesus spoke about giving alms and expecting nothing in return, while not making a big deal to others about fasting or praying. It's not time to slip in those categories. That should all be a big deal, but it needs to be between you and God. Sometimes you may feel like you need to try and get that attention to please God, but it is much better to spread God's words through your everyday actions and good deeds, instead of telling people you are praying, or neglecting your appearance because you are fasting.
If you go into your room and lock the door like Jesus said God still sees you praying, He is still there. This week's reading from Exodus talks about Moses and the Burning Bush. Have you had any moments like that in your life lately? It's kind of like a Transfiguration moment, and God is telling and showing you what to do in the form of signs and your own conscience. That's what Moses saw, and what he felt, and was moved with faith. It's that moment when something hits you, and you are positive that you need to make a change. Or a conversation where the person you are talking to says something that simply makes sense to you, and that you can apply to your own situation. Even a song lyric can do it...usually Michael Jackson for myself I must admit. Don't shy away from stuff like that, it's often God in disguise.
One sentence in that passage really struck me..."Moses hid his face, for he was afraid to look at God."
At this point in not only Lent, but even your life, you may be afraid of facing God. Moses was one of the best guys of all time, even featured in the Transfiguration, yet he could not look at the Father. Much like him, you may have some guilt or even be ashamed about a decision you made. It can be scary to think about how that looks to God.
The thing is, God still loves us. He wants us to look at Him, to feel that forgiveness and hope that comes with being a Christian. As Father Carsten said in his homily last night, suffering is a part of life, and we are human, so we are sinners as well. Our everyday struggles are a part of life too. You have to deal with it at some point. You have to stand up and look God in the eye. Having faith in Him gives us that hope that everything will be alright.
Luke's Gospel has an interesting little story this week that can serve as an example of that hope. Jesus tells it..."There once was a person who had a fig tree planted in his orchard, and when he came in search of fruit on it but found none, he said to the gardener, ‘For three years now I have come in search of fruit on this fig tree but have found none. So cut it down. Why should it exhaust the soil?’ He said to him in reply, ‘Sir, leave it for this year also, and I shall cultivate the ground around it and fertilize it; it may bear fruit in the future. If not you can cut it down."
Ever feel like that fig tree, kind of sticking out in the field, nothing really going right? The person with the fig tree didn't give up on it though. It's like the time after your moment of realization like Moses'. First, you are scared, next, you feel guilty, then you have to find a way to move on. That's the most important time, the time to cultivate and grow. It's nice when one thing can go right, like getting a job, rebuilding an old friendship, or getting a free pizza for dinner, which can tip the scales and make one thing after another go right. Before that moment, it was the complete opposite, everything felt like it was going wrong, right? But God doesn't want that terrible cycle to continue. It won't. He wants us to be happy, and then grow and learn from those little experiences, and get things rolling in the right direction to make a better person in the end. We need to work at it though, because we need to put into action the tools or gifts that God gives us...which is the fertilizer. With that we have the ability to make the fruit. And you know what, realistically, if we don't work at it, we will get cut down, and not be nearly as happy or as good at making others happy as we can be.
All in all, we can't forget about our goals at the beginning of Lent. People don't need to know about your own relationship with God, cultivate it yourself. That fig tree was different, but so are we. We just need to recognize that we are wrong sometimes, which can be linked to our own suffering. And if we don't see it ourselves, much like Moses, we might get a Burning Bush or two sent from God along the way. If we take that sign from God and do the work, goodness really will spread like fire.
The Gospel on that day was from Mt 6:1-6, 16-18, and Jesus spoke about giving alms and expecting nothing in return, while not making a big deal to others about fasting or praying. It's not time to slip in those categories. That should all be a big deal, but it needs to be between you and God. Sometimes you may feel like you need to try and get that attention to please God, but it is much better to spread God's words through your everyday actions and good deeds, instead of telling people you are praying, or neglecting your appearance because you are fasting.
If you go into your room and lock the door like Jesus said God still sees you praying, He is still there. This week's reading from Exodus talks about Moses and the Burning Bush. Have you had any moments like that in your life lately? It's kind of like a Transfiguration moment, and God is telling and showing you what to do in the form of signs and your own conscience. That's what Moses saw, and what he felt, and was moved with faith. It's that moment when something hits you, and you are positive that you need to make a change. Or a conversation where the person you are talking to says something that simply makes sense to you, and that you can apply to your own situation. Even a song lyric can do it...usually Michael Jackson for myself I must admit. Don't shy away from stuff like that, it's often God in disguise.
One sentence in that passage really struck me..."Moses hid his face, for he was afraid to look at God."
At this point in not only Lent, but even your life, you may be afraid of facing God. Moses was one of the best guys of all time, even featured in the Transfiguration, yet he could not look at the Father. Much like him, you may have some guilt or even be ashamed about a decision you made. It can be scary to think about how that looks to God.
The thing is, God still loves us. He wants us to look at Him, to feel that forgiveness and hope that comes with being a Christian. As Father Carsten said in his homily last night, suffering is a part of life, and we are human, so we are sinners as well. Our everyday struggles are a part of life too. You have to deal with it at some point. You have to stand up and look God in the eye. Having faith in Him gives us that hope that everything will be alright.
Luke's Gospel has an interesting little story this week that can serve as an example of that hope. Jesus tells it..."There once was a person who had a fig tree planted in his orchard, and when he came in search of fruit on it but found none, he said to the gardener, ‘For three years now I have come in search of fruit on this fig tree but have found none. So cut it down. Why should it exhaust the soil?’ He said to him in reply, ‘Sir, leave it for this year also, and I shall cultivate the ground around it and fertilize it; it may bear fruit in the future. If not you can cut it down."
Ever feel like that fig tree, kind of sticking out in the field, nothing really going right? The person with the fig tree didn't give up on it though. It's like the time after your moment of realization like Moses'. First, you are scared, next, you feel guilty, then you have to find a way to move on. That's the most important time, the time to cultivate and grow. It's nice when one thing can go right, like getting a job, rebuilding an old friendship, or getting a free pizza for dinner, which can tip the scales and make one thing after another go right. Before that moment, it was the complete opposite, everything felt like it was going wrong, right? But God doesn't want that terrible cycle to continue. It won't. He wants us to be happy, and then grow and learn from those little experiences, and get things rolling in the right direction to make a better person in the end. We need to work at it though, because we need to put into action the tools or gifts that God gives us...which is the fertilizer. With that we have the ability to make the fruit. And you know what, realistically, if we don't work at it, we will get cut down, and not be nearly as happy or as good at making others happy as we can be.
All in all, we can't forget about our goals at the beginning of Lent. People don't need to know about your own relationship with God, cultivate it yourself. That fig tree was different, but so are we. We just need to recognize that we are wrong sometimes, which can be linked to our own suffering. And if we don't see it ourselves, much like Moses, we might get a Burning Bush or two sent from God along the way. If we take that sign from God and do the work, goodness really will spread like fire.
Monday, March 1, 2010
Putting the Pieces Together
Our lives are like one giant puzzle. Little and big moments fit together to determine the people we truly are. Each and every one of those moments is important. You get better from the bad ones, and thrive with the good ones. Some are much bigger than others, which obviously have the biggest effect on our makeup.
In mass at Muller Chapel on Sunday, minister Lee Imbriano said these times are our "Transfiguration" moments. The Gospel this week speaks of Jesus being Transfigured on the mountain while accompanied by apostles Peter, James and John.
It's hard to leave when your internal happiness in a moment like that is at a maximum. It might be something as small as getting an A in the hardest course. Or simply meeting a friend or family member for dinner. Or receiving the Body and Blood of Christ. Or talking to a long lost acquaintance. Or meeting someone new. Or falling in love and getting married just like Lee mentioned.
He also spoke about his family reunion this past weekend, and the feeling of possibly saying goodbye to one of his 88 year old relatives for the last time. Think about that. What would you say? What would you be thinking? That moment was a big puzzle piece in his life, and hers. With all of the emotion involved, their eye contact in that last moment may have been a glimpse of heaven.
Why can't we take something like that into our own lives? If you walked around for one full day, knowing it would be your last, knowing that you would never see anyone again, how would you act? We need to live this way. Appreciate that brief moment of conversation between yourself and a friend. Who knows, not to be negative, but it really might be your last. Living that way, it would make everyone appreciate everything a lot more.
Something that strikes me as important about all of this is that everyone takes their different "Transfiguration" moments for granted. If you put a value on everything that you do, it makes life mean something. Those life changing moments are nothing to just dismiss, even Jesus hung out with Moses and Elijah for a little while.
That brings us back to the question I addressed earlier of not wanting to leave. Peter didn't want to walk away from all those great people. But remember, those moments are just glimpses of heaven. We are still on earth, our feet brought to the ground by good old gravity. Heaven is the dream and the hope we have, earth is the reality. By seeing those glimpses throughout our life, we have something to strive towards, and to make those good moments a big piece of who we are, while cherishing them at the same time.
Another aspect of the Transfiguration is God's actual voice saying "This is my chosen Son; listen to Him." His voice is actually heard twice in the readings this week. He speaks to Abram about their covenant in the first reading.
This actual sound of God is tough for a lot of people. They ask, "Why can't I hear the sound of God's voice like they did back then?" Honestly, I ask the same thing sometimes, but God is creative. He shows us what is best through nature, through conversations, through our own thoughts, and through those "Transfiguration" moments. Often, the good feeling that swells inside of us is God saying that being in that place and time is right.
Other times, we are making too much noise to let Him say anything at all. That's why, especially during Lent, we need to spend a couple minutes of quiet time everyday. No TV, no Ipod, no constant texting. Maybe then we'll be able to hear God's voice in our hearts.
It's not easy to appreciate every aspect of life, or live our days like it's our last, or shut off a cell phone, but we are still on earth. Let those moments of pure happiness and those glimpses of heaven transform our thoughts, so that we can move towards eternal happiness. That will only happen if we listen to God's voice in those different ways, and let him put the puzzle of our life together. Don't run away from it, embrace it. He knows what is best. From what I hear, He is quite the expert.
Any questions or comments feel free to send me an email...teschen1@ithaca.edu.
In mass at Muller Chapel on Sunday, minister Lee Imbriano said these times are our "Transfiguration" moments. The Gospel this week speaks of Jesus being Transfigured on the mountain while accompanied by apostles Peter, James and John.
It's hard to leave when your internal happiness in a moment like that is at a maximum. It might be something as small as getting an A in the hardest course. Or simply meeting a friend or family member for dinner. Or receiving the Body and Blood of Christ. Or talking to a long lost acquaintance. Or meeting someone new. Or falling in love and getting married just like Lee mentioned.
He also spoke about his family reunion this past weekend, and the feeling of possibly saying goodbye to one of his 88 year old relatives for the last time. Think about that. What would you say? What would you be thinking? That moment was a big puzzle piece in his life, and hers. With all of the emotion involved, their eye contact in that last moment may have been a glimpse of heaven.
Why can't we take something like that into our own lives? If you walked around for one full day, knowing it would be your last, knowing that you would never see anyone again, how would you act? We need to live this way. Appreciate that brief moment of conversation between yourself and a friend. Who knows, not to be negative, but it really might be your last. Living that way, it would make everyone appreciate everything a lot more.
Something that strikes me as important about all of this is that everyone takes their different "Transfiguration" moments for granted. If you put a value on everything that you do, it makes life mean something. Those life changing moments are nothing to just dismiss, even Jesus hung out with Moses and Elijah for a little while.
That brings us back to the question I addressed earlier of not wanting to leave. Peter didn't want to walk away from all those great people. But remember, those moments are just glimpses of heaven. We are still on earth, our feet brought to the ground by good old gravity. Heaven is the dream and the hope we have, earth is the reality. By seeing those glimpses throughout our life, we have something to strive towards, and to make those good moments a big piece of who we are, while cherishing them at the same time.
Another aspect of the Transfiguration is God's actual voice saying "This is my chosen Son; listen to Him." His voice is actually heard twice in the readings this week. He speaks to Abram about their covenant in the first reading.
This actual sound of God is tough for a lot of people. They ask, "Why can't I hear the sound of God's voice like they did back then?" Honestly, I ask the same thing sometimes, but God is creative. He shows us what is best through nature, through conversations, through our own thoughts, and through those "Transfiguration" moments. Often, the good feeling that swells inside of us is God saying that being in that place and time is right.
Other times, we are making too much noise to let Him say anything at all. That's why, especially during Lent, we need to spend a couple minutes of quiet time everyday. No TV, no Ipod, no constant texting. Maybe then we'll be able to hear God's voice in our hearts.
It's not easy to appreciate every aspect of life, or live our days like it's our last, or shut off a cell phone, but we are still on earth. Let those moments of pure happiness and those glimpses of heaven transform our thoughts, so that we can move towards eternal happiness. That will only happen if we listen to God's voice in those different ways, and let him put the puzzle of our life together. Don't run away from it, embrace it. He knows what is best. From what I hear, He is quite the expert.
Any questions or comments feel free to send me an email...teschen1@ithaca.edu.
Monday, February 22, 2010
What's the Difference?
Each one of us is different. We have different histories, mindsets, thought processes, interests, and looks. I might have blue eyes, while you have brown. Your hair might be dirty blonde, mine is brown. I might be not so good looking, you might be the best looking person around. Everyone knows this is so, correct? The one problem that many of us have is accepting those differences. Temptation to judge others comes from that inability to accept.
This struck me while watching and reading recent Olympics coverage. If you do not know, the Winter Olympics are currently being held in Vancouver, Canada.
Here is a link to some NBC's late night coverage featuring Stephen Colbert. Copy and paste it to the top of your web page to get there. You may have to download an application for it as well.
http://www.nbcolympics.com/video/assetid=3f28aedd-76c9-457f-abe6-68e0646a20e5.html
If it didn't work, the feature basically shows Colbert making fun of Canadians, saying they are quote "uninsultable," all while wearing a red and black Canadian Mountie uniform...he is mocking the country.
After watching that, read this article by Rick Reilly...
http://sports.espn.go.com/espn/columns/story?columnist=reilly_rick&id=4906756
These are two of the most beloved personalities in the media today. I don't mind listening or laughing with either, but if you really look at these examples, how would you feel if someone made fun of your way of life? I'm kind of disappointed in both.
I'm all for playful ribbing every once in awhile, but never at the expense of my customs or traditions. I love America, but these two examples are demeaning to the entire country of Canada, and three fourths of the audience will miss that. It's another way of saying the US is better than everyone else. It's not. Other countries have a lot to offer, and you would be fascinated with the way some places operate. That's what makes the Olympics special, you can get a brief taste of how different people of different origins act in one place. Let's accept that and let it grow to every day of the year.
We as a people need to accept that other cultures are different than ours, and then break that down to our individual interactions every day. Someone might be different than you, but that doesn't mean their way of life is wrong, or that yours is right. It's just the way it is. Only God knows the right way to live, and the only person to completely live the right way to this point in time was really just His Son, Jesus.
A lot of people have it worse than you and me, so that doesn't mean we should rub it in their face and make fun of them for that. Why not help them? Why not become friends with that one person who rubbed you the wrong way just because of what they believed? The may be more like you than you think.
Some people might not like my hair, or the way I wear my jeans, or the way I practice my beliefs in my everyday life, but that doesn't mean they have to ignore me, or that I have to ignore them. It is a challenge, we all know this, but everyone lives their lives much differently from one another. It would be pretty boring if everyone did the same thing.
Picture yourself in some kind of social setting. Jokes and laughs are always plentiful...by all means have a fun time. Can't it get nasty sometimes though, maybe even offensive? Having fun at the expense of others is fun for everyone...except the person being offended. It might not seem like that big of a deal, and most of the time it's not. Those targeted may be feeling a touch of hurt deep down though.
For example, I get made fun of quite a bit...and somehow have earned the nickname "Grandpa". Nothing wrong with that. Grandpas are great. I could be called much worse things. If someone were to ever seclude me or keep me out of their group because of that though, that's a different story. It hasn't happened in my case, but all of the time good individuals are ostricized in their own group of friends just because they are different.
It's tempting to join in isn't it? We've all given in. If you want to look at the right way to do it, just look at this week's Gospel. Jesus is tempted three times by the devil, and never wavers. Try to be like Jesus and not even flinch. Recognize when the temptation is there. It's when something shouldn't feel quite right in your mind. Putting yourself out there when it's not exactly the most popular thing to do is truly living the way Jesus wanted us to live. His entire public work was based on that, and don't be worried about secluding yourself and losing friends. Look at Jesus, he had quite the following of apostles and disciples.
Most importantly, look inside yourself. This past weekend, I was in my home parish, St. James Church. Father Peter Worn spoke about us recognizing that we do need help. If we are arrogant, cocky, or overconfident about our ability to stand up to temptation, we won't do very well. We need God. He helps us stand up to anything that tempts us, and we need to recognize that he makes us that strong. We can't do it by ourselves.
Keep walking with God in this first full week of Lent. We aren't perfect, but by realizing our own weaknesses we will be able to appreciate everything that is different from our own way of living. God is always there, and will be with us through any of the bad temptations that breed from those differences. Do what makes you the happiest, but not at the expense of people you don't know quite enough about. Jesus stood up to all temptation, and He was a human just like us.
So, why can't we do it too?
This struck me while watching and reading recent Olympics coverage. If you do not know, the Winter Olympics are currently being held in Vancouver, Canada.
Here is a link to some NBC's late night coverage featuring Stephen Colbert. Copy and paste it to the top of your web page to get there. You may have to download an application for it as well.
http://www.nbcolympics.com/video/assetid=3f28aedd-76c9-457f-abe6-68e0646a20e5.html
If it didn't work, the feature basically shows Colbert making fun of Canadians, saying they are quote "uninsultable," all while wearing a red and black Canadian Mountie uniform...he is mocking the country.
After watching that, read this article by Rick Reilly...
http://sports.espn.go.com/espn/columns/story?columnist=reilly_rick&id=4906756
These are two of the most beloved personalities in the media today. I don't mind listening or laughing with either, but if you really look at these examples, how would you feel if someone made fun of your way of life? I'm kind of disappointed in both.
I'm all for playful ribbing every once in awhile, but never at the expense of my customs or traditions. I love America, but these two examples are demeaning to the entire country of Canada, and three fourths of the audience will miss that. It's another way of saying the US is better than everyone else. It's not. Other countries have a lot to offer, and you would be fascinated with the way some places operate. That's what makes the Olympics special, you can get a brief taste of how different people of different origins act in one place. Let's accept that and let it grow to every day of the year.
We as a people need to accept that other cultures are different than ours, and then break that down to our individual interactions every day. Someone might be different than you, but that doesn't mean their way of life is wrong, or that yours is right. It's just the way it is. Only God knows the right way to live, and the only person to completely live the right way to this point in time was really just His Son, Jesus.
A lot of people have it worse than you and me, so that doesn't mean we should rub it in their face and make fun of them for that. Why not help them? Why not become friends with that one person who rubbed you the wrong way just because of what they believed? The may be more like you than you think.
Some people might not like my hair, or the way I wear my jeans, or the way I practice my beliefs in my everyday life, but that doesn't mean they have to ignore me, or that I have to ignore them. It is a challenge, we all know this, but everyone lives their lives much differently from one another. It would be pretty boring if everyone did the same thing.
Picture yourself in some kind of social setting. Jokes and laughs are always plentiful...by all means have a fun time. Can't it get nasty sometimes though, maybe even offensive? Having fun at the expense of others is fun for everyone...except the person being offended. It might not seem like that big of a deal, and most of the time it's not. Those targeted may be feeling a touch of hurt deep down though.
For example, I get made fun of quite a bit...and somehow have earned the nickname "Grandpa". Nothing wrong with that. Grandpas are great. I could be called much worse things. If someone were to ever seclude me or keep me out of their group because of that though, that's a different story. It hasn't happened in my case, but all of the time good individuals are ostricized in their own group of friends just because they are different.
It's tempting to join in isn't it? We've all given in. If you want to look at the right way to do it, just look at this week's Gospel. Jesus is tempted three times by the devil, and never wavers. Try to be like Jesus and not even flinch. Recognize when the temptation is there. It's when something shouldn't feel quite right in your mind. Putting yourself out there when it's not exactly the most popular thing to do is truly living the way Jesus wanted us to live. His entire public work was based on that, and don't be worried about secluding yourself and losing friends. Look at Jesus, he had quite the following of apostles and disciples.
Most importantly, look inside yourself. This past weekend, I was in my home parish, St. James Church. Father Peter Worn spoke about us recognizing that we do need help. If we are arrogant, cocky, or overconfident about our ability to stand up to temptation, we won't do very well. We need God. He helps us stand up to anything that tempts us, and we need to recognize that he makes us that strong. We can't do it by ourselves.
Keep walking with God in this first full week of Lent. We aren't perfect, but by realizing our own weaknesses we will be able to appreciate everything that is different from our own way of living. God is always there, and will be with us through any of the bad temptations that breed from those differences. Do what makes you the happiest, but not at the expense of people you don't know quite enough about. Jesus stood up to all temptation, and He was a human just like us.
So, why can't we do it too?
Monday, February 15, 2010
Primetime
This week we will welcome Lent, the holiest time of year. Are you ready? You don't really have to be...yet. Starting on Ash Wednesday, your next forty days and forty nights should be different than your last forty days and forty nights. Hopefully, over this time period, we will all change for the better and for good.
That's the thing about Lent. Often, people do what they can for forty days...and then go right back to their normal everyday lives. We can't just forget Lent on Easter morning. That's what makes Easter one of the highlights of the Church year. It's a good feeling on that day to know Jesus rose from the dead, isn't it? But we need every day of Lent to build up to Easter, and then remember that for the rest of the year.
So, thinking about how to properly do that...I remembered a piece of a homily that was given maybe a ten to fifteen years ago in my old church, St. Matthews in East Syracuse, NY. Monsignor Lavin, God rest his soul, was known for his repetition of words, and after all these years I remember one of his homilies distinctly. After all these years it's pretty impressive on both of our parts I must say. But anyways on that day he spoke about the little things in life, and I remember these words well...
"It's like a snowball...a snowball. Rolling down the mountain..."
You may not know, but all 50 states had some kind of snow sitting on the grass somewhere in the state a few days ago. I'm not trying to make any political global warming/climate change statements, but this reference should be pretty universal at this point in time. Anyways, a snowball gets bigger and bigger and moves faster and faster as it travels down the mountain....
...which translates to something that could be either really good, or something not so good. It is all based on the decisions you make in your life. Bad decisions can grow inside of people, and once they make one, it becomes a lot easier to justify and make another. This is how people's lives spiral out of control, and the only way of stopping that is either doing it themselves or getting hurt and hitting a brick wall. Kind of like the whole idea of what goes around comes around, but that's for another blog at another time. If you are trapped like that, what better time than Lent to make that one good decision that will turn your life around?
Many people are in that situation, where they simply can't get out of the rut they are in. They look for anything to justify what they are doing. But, other signs from God should tell them that they need to get out of that rut. I'm here to take a shot at translating those signs.
One slogan that puts decision making in a nut shell is: Sometimes you have to do something you don't want to do. I don't really know if I saw it on a bumper sticker, or if it just came to me through divine intervention, but it's stuck close to me in my life these past few years. Keep that in mind...
Rocky Balboa says, "Life ain't all sunshine and rainbows," which it's not. To come as close to being happy as possible, you have to make those little decisions that you really don't want to make. If your snowball isn't looking too good at this point, it might be time to make a decision that you don't really want to. You might not want to sign up for a certain tough course, or tell your family a difficult confession, or even eat a salad instead of a jelly donut. I'm sure everyone has or will have a situation like this facing them, and often the toughest decision to make is the right one. We rely on God to tell us whether or not it is right. If it is, life will turn around, if it's not, He will send us signs telling us to go in a different direction. Rest easy...we have more than one chance, as Jesus says to "...forgive seven times seventy..." That's a reassuring and relaxing thought.
That hope of having your life go in the best direction is right in front of you. God ensures you that it is never gone. Sometimes, one small, good decision can make a huge impact on the rest of your week, month, year, and even your life. It might be going to church more than once during the week, or choosing to call an old friend. I'm sure its happened before, but we tend not to think about as it is happening. Goodness is contagious, and by making one good decision, it's a lot easier to make another one, and then another one. It doesn't hurt that it puts you in the good Graces of God either. That's the snowball you are looking for.
To reference another movie, "Evan Almighty" actually has a pretty solid message throughout the film. It's a modern day story of Noah's Ark, and God, played by Morgan Freeman, reassures Noah(Steve Carell) that one simple act of random kindness at a time can change the world. Why not start that on Ash Wednesday? See someone walking and walk with them, or if you are driving give them a lift to their destination. Have an eye for human suffering and address it by talking to those who are hurting. Hold the door open, even if it means you are awkwardly standing there for more than two seconds. Compliments aren't bad either. I love it when people say, "Nice sweater." Well, in that instance, they may be making fun of me, but I'll take it as a compliment. Regardless, all of that means something. After forty days, those acts will be plentiful, and the surplus will spill over to everyone in the community around you. It will also spill over beyond Easter. The entire planet may not be changing, but by doing that in your own world you are starting somewhere.
So, set a precedent for yourself this Lent. Don't give just an hour a week to God, give two or three. Get involved in your Catholic Community. Everyone is busy, but you can't be too busy for God. He is never too busy for you. Kind of makes you think doesn't it? Maybe I'll touch on this again after Easter, but like I say above, one of the most important parts of Lent is to carry what you've built beyond that forty days, and to the rest of the days of your life as well.
And by thinking every day of how to make good decisions through small random acts of kindness, your good snowball may just turn into an avalanche.
That's the thing about Lent. Often, people do what they can for forty days...and then go right back to their normal everyday lives. We can't just forget Lent on Easter morning. That's what makes Easter one of the highlights of the Church year. It's a good feeling on that day to know Jesus rose from the dead, isn't it? But we need every day of Lent to build up to Easter, and then remember that for the rest of the year.
So, thinking about how to properly do that...I remembered a piece of a homily that was given maybe a ten to fifteen years ago in my old church, St. Matthews in East Syracuse, NY. Monsignor Lavin, God rest his soul, was known for his repetition of words, and after all these years I remember one of his homilies distinctly. After all these years it's pretty impressive on both of our parts I must say. But anyways on that day he spoke about the little things in life, and I remember these words well...
"It's like a snowball...a snowball. Rolling down the mountain..."
You may not know, but all 50 states had some kind of snow sitting on the grass somewhere in the state a few days ago. I'm not trying to make any political global warming/climate change statements, but this reference should be pretty universal at this point in time. Anyways, a snowball gets bigger and bigger and moves faster and faster as it travels down the mountain....
...which translates to something that could be either really good, or something not so good. It is all based on the decisions you make in your life. Bad decisions can grow inside of people, and once they make one, it becomes a lot easier to justify and make another. This is how people's lives spiral out of control, and the only way of stopping that is either doing it themselves or getting hurt and hitting a brick wall. Kind of like the whole idea of what goes around comes around, but that's for another blog at another time. If you are trapped like that, what better time than Lent to make that one good decision that will turn your life around?
Many people are in that situation, where they simply can't get out of the rut they are in. They look for anything to justify what they are doing. But, other signs from God should tell them that they need to get out of that rut. I'm here to take a shot at translating those signs.
One slogan that puts decision making in a nut shell is: Sometimes you have to do something you don't want to do. I don't really know if I saw it on a bumper sticker, or if it just came to me through divine intervention, but it's stuck close to me in my life these past few years. Keep that in mind...
Rocky Balboa says, "Life ain't all sunshine and rainbows," which it's not. To come as close to being happy as possible, you have to make those little decisions that you really don't want to make. If your snowball isn't looking too good at this point, it might be time to make a decision that you don't really want to. You might not want to sign up for a certain tough course, or tell your family a difficult confession, or even eat a salad instead of a jelly donut. I'm sure everyone has or will have a situation like this facing them, and often the toughest decision to make is the right one. We rely on God to tell us whether or not it is right. If it is, life will turn around, if it's not, He will send us signs telling us to go in a different direction. Rest easy...we have more than one chance, as Jesus says to "...forgive seven times seventy..." That's a reassuring and relaxing thought.
That hope of having your life go in the best direction is right in front of you. God ensures you that it is never gone. Sometimes, one small, good decision can make a huge impact on the rest of your week, month, year, and even your life. It might be going to church more than once during the week, or choosing to call an old friend. I'm sure its happened before, but we tend not to think about as it is happening. Goodness is contagious, and by making one good decision, it's a lot easier to make another one, and then another one. It doesn't hurt that it puts you in the good Graces of God either. That's the snowball you are looking for.
To reference another movie, "Evan Almighty" actually has a pretty solid message throughout the film. It's a modern day story of Noah's Ark, and God, played by Morgan Freeman, reassures Noah(Steve Carell) that one simple act of random kindness at a time can change the world. Why not start that on Ash Wednesday? See someone walking and walk with them, or if you are driving give them a lift to their destination. Have an eye for human suffering and address it by talking to those who are hurting. Hold the door open, even if it means you are awkwardly standing there for more than two seconds. Compliments aren't bad either. I love it when people say, "Nice sweater." Well, in that instance, they may be making fun of me, but I'll take it as a compliment. Regardless, all of that means something. After forty days, those acts will be plentiful, and the surplus will spill over to everyone in the community around you. It will also spill over beyond Easter. The entire planet may not be changing, but by doing that in your own world you are starting somewhere.
So, set a precedent for yourself this Lent. Don't give just an hour a week to God, give two or three. Get involved in your Catholic Community. Everyone is busy, but you can't be too busy for God. He is never too busy for you. Kind of makes you think doesn't it? Maybe I'll touch on this again after Easter, but like I say above, one of the most important parts of Lent is to carry what you've built beyond that forty days, and to the rest of the days of your life as well.
And by thinking every day of how to make good decisions through small random acts of kindness, your good snowball may just turn into an avalanche.
Monday, February 8, 2010
Valentine's Day
With Valentine's Day in less than a week, I think it's time to reflect a little bit on love. Some people hate the day, others love it. It's quite the polarizing holiday in our society. If you have a significant other I'm sure you enjoy getting the occasional Whitman's Sampler or diamond earrings. Those who have seen love through a different lens though, that of a broken heart, take a negative look on the day.
First off, the namesake of the day, Saint Valentine, had nothing to do with greeting cards or Cupid. He was a Christian martyr, obviously a great man. I'm sure many people didn't know that. But, as time goes on, things change, and now Valentine's Day is seen as a big money maker for the greeting card industry (See Hallmark).
Props to Saint Valentine, we should all follow his example in unending love for God. But I want to talk about our love for each other, and analyze what the Bible says about it. Those without a love life at this time, stay with me. This passage is from Corinthians 13, and is often recited at Weddings. Read it slowly.
"3If I give away everything I own, and if I hand my body over so that I may boast but do not have love, I gain nothing. 4Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, it is not pompous, it is not inflated, 5it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick tempered, it does not brood over injury, 6it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. 7It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8Love never fails...13So faith, hope, love remain, these three; but the greatest of these is love."
For those who are heartbroken, you probably want to click to another website. But wait one second. It was Jesus who said "Love thy neighbor" right? Pretty sure he knew what he was talking about. Let's look at it deeper. Read it again, then look below.
...Love is patient, love is kind...
It's hard to be patient isn't it? I struggle with patience every day. It is easy to get annoyed with your friends and family. But the Bible says if you love them, you understand them, and won't jump and bite their head off. We have all done it. So, take an extra couple seconds next time you feel yourself getting impatient. It's hard, but just do it and see what happens.
...It is not jealous, it is not pompous...
Think of the last time you got jealous of your boyfriend/girlfriend when they talking to someone of the opposite sex or even just hanging out with their own friends. Well, I'm sorry, but you aren't supposed to feel that envy. Human nature tells us that we should be the only ones in their life, but isn't that a bit pompous? So, why not try living out of the box, and appreciating their ability to have friends and get along with a lot of people. You might just happen to get along with them too.
...it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth...
We've all done it. Fight with someone for absolutely no reason. I've had conversations with people who say they actually like it sometimes, I guess it gives them something to do. Try going on a walk or sharing a funny story instead. Truth is important too. Half-truths kill relationships. Loving each other means you shouldn't be scared to tell the truth. Sometimes it is the hardest part, but it will cause much less worry in the end.
...it endures all things. Love never fails...
God will never stop loving us. We know this. The full passage above tells us just how good God's love is. What about loving one another? If things fall through with an individual, was that really love? Above the Bible says love never fails, but I'm sure some people have felt that love has failed them. God doesn't fail though. He knows what kind of love is right for each and every one of us, and quite honestly we don't know what we want for the majority of our lives. Listen to Him trust me.
So, instead of forcing something that isn't quite there, take a step back. Don't get me wrong, if you feel like it is right with that person of your dreams go on and go for it. Do what makes you happy. But, if it doesn't work out after some futile tries, trust in God. It will work out. It might not be what you wanted at that point in time, but you'll thank Him down the road.
This coming Sunday, you might be happy, and you might be sad, but if you can, try as hard as you can to keep this bible passage in the back of your mind. It can apply to both your love for others, and God's love for you.
As I write this, I'm single. I probably haven't followed those guidelines that well either. I know I'm not perfect. But by surrounding myself with friends and family who do care about me, Valentine's Day will turn from a day of focusing on loving just one person to a day of remembering all of those people who truly do care for me.
By following this path, you too might realize that love is more than a "Fax Me" on a conversation heart.
First off, the namesake of the day, Saint Valentine, had nothing to do with greeting cards or Cupid. He was a Christian martyr, obviously a great man. I'm sure many people didn't know that. But, as time goes on, things change, and now Valentine's Day is seen as a big money maker for the greeting card industry (See Hallmark).
Props to Saint Valentine, we should all follow his example in unending love for God. But I want to talk about our love for each other, and analyze what the Bible says about it. Those without a love life at this time, stay with me. This passage is from Corinthians 13, and is often recited at Weddings. Read it slowly.
"3If I give away everything I own, and if I hand my body over so that I may boast but do not have love, I gain nothing. 4Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, it is not pompous, it is not inflated, 5it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick tempered, it does not brood over injury, 6it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. 7It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8Love never fails...13So faith, hope, love remain, these three; but the greatest of these is love."
For those who are heartbroken, you probably want to click to another website. But wait one second. It was Jesus who said "Love thy neighbor" right? Pretty sure he knew what he was talking about. Let's look at it deeper. Read it again, then look below.
...Love is patient, love is kind...
It's hard to be patient isn't it? I struggle with patience every day. It is easy to get annoyed with your friends and family. But the Bible says if you love them, you understand them, and won't jump and bite their head off. We have all done it. So, take an extra couple seconds next time you feel yourself getting impatient. It's hard, but just do it and see what happens.
...It is not jealous, it is not pompous...
Think of the last time you got jealous of your boyfriend/girlfriend when they talking to someone of the opposite sex or even just hanging out with their own friends. Well, I'm sorry, but you aren't supposed to feel that envy. Human nature tells us that we should be the only ones in their life, but isn't that a bit pompous? So, why not try living out of the box, and appreciating their ability to have friends and get along with a lot of people. You might just happen to get along with them too.
...it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth...
We've all done it. Fight with someone for absolutely no reason. I've had conversations with people who say they actually like it sometimes, I guess it gives them something to do. Try going on a walk or sharing a funny story instead. Truth is important too. Half-truths kill relationships. Loving each other means you shouldn't be scared to tell the truth. Sometimes it is the hardest part, but it will cause much less worry in the end.
...it endures all things. Love never fails...
God will never stop loving us. We know this. The full passage above tells us just how good God's love is. What about loving one another? If things fall through with an individual, was that really love? Above the Bible says love never fails, but I'm sure some people have felt that love has failed them. God doesn't fail though. He knows what kind of love is right for each and every one of us, and quite honestly we don't know what we want for the majority of our lives. Listen to Him trust me.
So, instead of forcing something that isn't quite there, take a step back. Don't get me wrong, if you feel like it is right with that person of your dreams go on and go for it. Do what makes you happy. But, if it doesn't work out after some futile tries, trust in God. It will work out. It might not be what you wanted at that point in time, but you'll thank Him down the road.
This coming Sunday, you might be happy, and you might be sad, but if you can, try as hard as you can to keep this bible passage in the back of your mind. It can apply to both your love for others, and God's love for you.
As I write this, I'm single. I probably haven't followed those guidelines that well either. I know I'm not perfect. But by surrounding myself with friends and family who do care about me, Valentine's Day will turn from a day of focusing on loving just one person to a day of remembering all of those people who truly do care for me.
By following this path, you too might realize that love is more than a "Fax Me" on a conversation heart.
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